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I don't want your life

The only thing standing in my way right now is myself.
I just have to take more action and do it quicker.

I've been thinking about how to deal with my family.
It's not really a healthy environment for me to be around
and I dread holidays pretty much year-round.
I've talked to multiple therapists about it but the anxiety
still hasn't gone away. It wouldn't be great to stop
talking to them but I do think I'd feel a lot of freedom.
They want everyone around them to feel more stupid than them.
I guess I should just refuse to feel stupid or judged.
Even if they judge that doesn't mean it has to bother me.
They all act like they have some type of weird authority.
But they don't...
Unfortunately it's just up to me to deal with it, telling
them is just going to make them mad because of their egos.

My friends and I are working on a music video shoot.
I've got mixed feelings, because I really want it to happen
but I always act super weird when I make vide…

Marginal improvements

My online mentors all have some version of this advice: improve a little bit, each day.

Have you heard the idea about improving by just 1% every day?

I'm not sure how to measure and track progress for it, but I had an idea last week.

Just shoot for 10 minutes a day on each of the things I know I need to do every day.

So far today I've spent way more than 10 minutes on some of the things. 

Just as long as I can get 10 minutes in on everything. 

The hardest part for me is the mindset. 
The hope is that I'll spend way more than 10 minutes because I need to put in quality time on my goals. But I can't spend 1-2 hours on everything every day. 10 minutes is still forward progress - I try to remind myself that "slow motion is better than no motion."

One of my mentors always says: we're not trying to build a skyscraper over night. 
Just build brick by brick and eventually there'll be a skyscraper. 
It's a Japanese improvement concept called kaizen - improve little by little.

What's one thing you know you need to do for 10 minutes every day?


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